Once you begin working with an IFS therapist, you’ll spend a lot of time focusing on the Parts. You’ll grow to understand them, empathize with them, and even communicate with them.
You and your therapist may each have your own ideas on what the healing process will look like. However, your Parts will guide the way, and it is important to know what to expect from them. Today, let’s discuss what you could experience as you interact with your Parts.
Restricted Access
One of the most beautiful things about IFS is that the Parts are respected from the beginning. You should not be concerned if you have a Part that denies access because it is only doing its job to try and keep you safe.
Trauma victims all have vulnerable territory deep inside themselves. If you have an inaccessible part, try to remain patient and understanding. Your therapist will help you develop curiosity about that Part, and in time, those walls will come down as you establish trust.
Being Stuck in the Past
Many trauma victims struggle because of abuse that occurred as children. It should come as no surprise when Parts offer the same type of protection they always have; even after the individual is grown.
It is common for Parts to feel stuck in the past. Sometimes all that is needed is for them to be updated on what is happening in the here and now. Once they understand your current stage in life, their need to protect you often changes.
Valid Fears That Need Addressing
Your Parts could have valid fears that need to be addressed head-on. These may be things that neither you nor your therapist have considered. For example, anger (a protective Part) is often in place because it has valid points that need to be heard.
Your therapist will help you discuss your Parts’ concerns with each of them. Together, you will determine if those concerns are reasonable. If they are not, you will learn how to move forward. If they are, you will make sure that Part feels understood.
Also, there may be times when a Part’s fear is valid, but there is nothing you can do about it right away. That is okay. You and your therapist will simply shut the door and return to that Part when the time is right.
The “Flight” Instinct
As you begin IFS therapy, your Parts may regret giving permission for you and your therapist to work with them. Please know that this is completely normal. You may have thoughts of quitting therapy or trying to steer your therapist in a different direction.
Your therapist will help you recognize when this is happening and they will give you support and guidance as you continue to navigate the healing process together.
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