The manager parts work hard to protect trauma victims from harm. This protection is often manifested as control over everything they do. It affects their relationships with others, their professional lives, and even their interactions with complete strangers. But sometimes managers are not as efficient as they want to be, and no matter how hard [...]
Many trauma victims are completely unaware of the Parts storm that is brewing inside of them. They only know what they feel and experience in any given moment. It should come as no surprise that they are also not aware of the Self. The key to healing trauma is found in not only identifying the [...]
There are struggles within every family, and the internal family is no different. In fact, it really should be expected. But when a person is dealing with significant trauma, those struggles can feel like a storm is constantly brewing on the inside. Parts that cry for help or that have attachment issues can trigger fight [...]
Managers are the protective Parts. It is their job to take care of our everyday safety needs. A lot of people experience Managers as the voices they hear, and eventually, come to think of as themselves. Trauma victims typically come to rely on Managers to help them form their opinions and judgments, but at the [...]
Trauma victims tend to have two types of Parts – protective Parts and protected Parts. The protective Parts feel the need to protect the more vulnerable Parts, and the internal systems organize themselves in this way. In some people, the protective Parts dominate, while in others, the protected Parts do. Everyone is different, but it [...]
Since a child’s circumstances and experiences shape their physical and psychological development, researchers have spent decades looking into the role that our early years might play in the likelihood of developing addictions in later life. According to the sex addiction researcher, Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., an incredible 97% of people with sex addiction suffered emotional abuse [...]
When trauma is left unresolved, it is very easy for the Parts to take over. When they do, they can cause all kinds of issues for trauma victims. In fact, sometimes Parts can take over to the point where they begin to inherently change the life of a person altogether. Trauma Symptoms Vs. Beliefs In [...]
Many trauma therapists do not know how to lead their clients into the basic understanding of who “I” is. “I” is subjective, and it could mean: The part of the person that gets angered easily. The part of the person who often succumbs to fear. The part of the person that feels ashamed at times. [...]
Most trauma victims spend their lives trying to run away from their Parts instead of getting to know them, learn about them, and sympathize with them. But all that running away does is make matters worse, and the individual never gets to experience any true healing. It may feel like the prospect of getting to [...]
Every single person on this planet has a Self, and they also have Parts. The issue with trauma victims is that their Parts have – for lack of a better term – taken them hostage. This is done in self-preservation, but it is not something that cannot be overcome by learning how to listen and [...]