Many trauma survivors find it easy to be compassionate toward others, but when it comes to offering themselves that same level of compassion, they struggle. They learn to tolerate hurt, disappointment, and even rejection in their relationships with the people they care about. Yet, they lack the ability to accept themselves unconditionally. Mindfulness plays an [...]
It may seem hard to believe, but the different types of Parts – managers, exiles, and firefighters – can be transformed into something completely different and inherently beautiful for all trauma victims. Though each one has its own extreme role to play, none of them have to remain in those roles. They can be transformed, [...]
The manager parts work hard to protect trauma victims from harm. This protection is often manifested as control over everything they do. It affects their relationships with others, their professional lives, and even their interactions with complete strangers. But sometimes managers are not as efficient as they want to be, and no matter how hard [...]
Many trauma victims are completely unaware of the Parts storm that is brewing inside of them. They only know what they feel and experience in any given moment. It should come as no surprise that they are also not aware of the Self. The key to healing trauma is found in not only identifying the [...]
There are struggles within every family, and the internal family is no different. In fact, it really should be expected. But when a person is dealing with significant trauma, those struggles can feel like a storm is constantly brewing on the inside. Parts that cry for help or that have attachment issues can trigger fight [...]
Managers are the protective Parts. It is their job to take care of our everyday safety needs. A lot of people experience Managers as the voices they hear, and eventually, come to think of as themselves. Trauma victims typically come to rely on Managers to help them form their opinions and judgments, but at the [...]
Trauma victims tend to have two types of Parts – protective Parts and protected Parts. The protective Parts feel the need to protect the more vulnerable Parts, and the internal systems organize themselves in this way. In some people, the protective Parts dominate, while in others, the protected Parts do. Everyone is different, but it [...]
Since a child’s circumstances and experiences shape their physical and psychological development, researchers have spent decades looking into the role that our early years might play in the likelihood of developing addictions in later life. According to the sex addiction researcher, Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., an incredible 97% of people with sex addiction suffered emotional abuse [...]
When trauma is left unresolved, it is very easy for the Parts to take over. When they do, they can cause all kinds of issues for trauma victims. In fact, sometimes Parts can take over to the point where they begin to inherently change the life of a person altogether. Trauma Symptoms Vs. Beliefs In [...]
Many trauma therapists do not know how to lead their clients into the basic understanding of who “I” is. “I” is subjective, and it could mean: The part of the person that gets angered easily. The part of the person who often succumbs to fear. The part of the person that feels ashamed at times. [...]