One of the biggest concerns for anyone who is in recovery from sex addiction is the possibility of relapse. Not only is this a major setback, it can also be incredibly discouraging and demoralizing for the sufferer. Although you cannot 100% guarantee that you will never relapse from an addiction of any kind, setting goals [...]
Far too many trauma victims enter into therapy to try and get healing while still feeling as though they are not safe to heal at all. This is due to the “blending” of the Parts that has taken place as a result of the traumatic event. It is false to assume that traumatic events need [...]
All trauma victims have Parts that are harder to handle than others. Parts like Rage, Terror, and Judgment are ones that many people would rather just forget about entirely. But trying to forget about them isn’t going to make them go away, and it won’t address the inherent issues the individual is experiencing because of [...]
Many trauma survivors are too blended with their Parts to actively engage in mindfulness. Because they so closely identify with their Parts’ feelings and beliefs, it is challenging for them to see them separately. Practicing externalized mindfulness is an important component of trauma therapy that can help with that. As a therapist, this type of [...]
We have discussed some of what you can expect when you begin working with an internal family systems therapist. For example, you will be instructed to focus internally, reminded that you are the one in control, and why “Parts” language is used. But there is more you should be aware of as well, which I [...]
If you have never experienced the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of therapy, the concept is probably very unfamiliar to you. It is normal to wonder what you can expect to experience during your sessions and throughout the healing process. Let’s take a few moments and talk about some of what happens when you work [...]
Every trauma victim’s Parts share the same body, brain, and environment. When the victim experiences a thought or feeling, it is important for them to be able to differentiate the “voice” behind it. That requires the person to stop, listen, and understand when that Part is speaking. There is a lot of healing that can [...]
Many trauma survivors find it easy to be compassionate toward others, but when it comes to offering themselves that same level of compassion, they struggle. They learn to tolerate hurt, disappointment, and even rejection in their relationships with the people they care about. Yet, they lack the ability to accept themselves unconditionally. Mindfulness plays an [...]
It may seem hard to believe, but the different types of Parts – managers, exiles, and firefighters – can be transformed into something completely different and inherently beautiful for all trauma victims. Though each one has its own extreme role to play, none of them have to remain in those roles. They can be transformed, [...]
The manager parts work hard to protect trauma victims from harm. This protection is often manifested as control over everything they do. It affects their relationships with others, their professional lives, and even their interactions with complete strangers. But sometimes managers are not as efficient as they want to be, and no matter how hard [...]