The New Year is a great time to set good intentions and develop healthier habits. While there are often negative connotations surrounding New Year’s resolutions, they can be very positive if approached correctly. The mistake people often make is that they only focus on the things they shouldn’t be doing. Quitting smoking and not eating [...]
Many trauma victims are completely unaware of the Parts storm that is brewing inside of them. They only know what they feel and experience in any given moment. It should come as no surprise that they are also not aware of the Self. The key to healing trauma is found in not only identifying the [...]
There are struggles within every family, and the internal family is no different. In fact, it really should be expected. But when a person is dealing with significant trauma, those struggles can feel like a storm is constantly brewing on the inside. Parts that cry for help or that have attachment issues can trigger fight [...]
One of the most common questions we get is ‘why are some people addicted to sex while others aren’t?’ Although we understand more about drug and alcohol addiction than ever before, there are still many questions surrounding sex addiction, how to define it, what causes it and why some people are more prone to it [...]
Managers are the protective Parts. It is their job to take care of our everyday safety needs. A lot of people experience Managers as the voices they hear, and eventually, come to think of as themselves. Trauma victims typically come to rely on Managers to help them form their opinions and judgments, but at the [...]
Trauma victims tend to have two types of Parts – protective Parts and protected Parts. The protective Parts feel the need to protect the more vulnerable Parts, and the internal systems organize themselves in this way. In some people, the protective Parts dominate, while in others, the protected Parts do. Everyone is different, but it [...]
Since a child’s circumstances and experiences shape their physical and psychological development, researchers have spent decades looking into the role that our early years might play in the likelihood of developing addictions in later life. According to the sex addiction researcher, Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., an incredible 97% of people with sex addiction suffered emotional abuse [...]
When trauma is left unresolved, it is very easy for the Parts to take over. When they do, they can cause all kinds of issues for trauma victims. In fact, sometimes Parts can take over to the point where they begin to inherently change the life of a person altogether. Trauma Symptoms Vs. Beliefs In [...]
Many trauma therapists do not know how to lead their clients into the basic understanding of who “I” is. “I” is subjective, and it could mean: The part of the person that gets angered easily. The part of the person who often succumbs to fear. The part of the person that feels ashamed at times. [...]
The addiction recovery process is long and difficult and will be full of ups and downs. Sometimes you may feel great and like you’ve really got this, other times, avoiding relapse may feel near impossible. All these feelings are perfectly normal, so please don’t worry if you’re experiencing them. The important thing is to continue [...]