If your spouse has a sexual addiction, you have likely experienced extreme trauma as a result of their actions. Safety-seeking behaviors are common for trauma victims in your situation because your entire world has just been turned upside down by your spouse’s betrayal. Like many couples, you once felt safe and secure in your relationship [...]
The term relational trauma refers to any event involving a person betraying, abandoning, or failing to support someone they have an attachment bond with. Another term for this is attachment injury. Relational traumas make it difficult to cope and tend to reframe relationships into something dangerous instead of a place of safety during stressful times. [...]
One of the biggest concerns for anyone who is in recovery from sex addiction is the possibility of relapse. Not only is this a major setback, it can also be incredibly discouraging and demoralizing for the sufferer. Although you cannot 100% guarantee that you will never relapse from an addiction of any kind, setting goals [...]
The New Year is a great time to set good intentions and develop healthier habits. While there are often negative connotations surrounding New Year’s resolutions, they can be very positive if approached correctly. The mistake people often make is that they only focus on the things they shouldn’t be doing. Quitting smoking and not eating [...]
One of the most common questions we get is ‘why are some people addicted to sex while others aren’t?’ Although we understand more about drug and alcohol addiction than ever before, there are still many questions surrounding sex addiction, how to define it, what causes it and why some people are more prone to it [...]
Since a child’s circumstances and experiences shape their physical and psychological development, researchers have spent decades looking into the role that our early years might play in the likelihood of developing addictions in later life. According to the sex addiction researcher, Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., an incredible 97% of people with sex addiction suffered emotional abuse [...]
The addiction recovery process is long and difficult and will be full of ups and downs. Sometimes you may feel great and like you’ve really got this, other times, avoiding relapse may feel near impossible. All these feelings are perfectly normal, so please don’t worry if you’re experiencing them. The important thing is to continue [...]
Most of us know how difficult it is to resist even the simplest of things. Whether it’s that extra cookie or checking your phone every two minutes, the more we try to stop ourselves from doing something, the more we think about it. Addiction is of course far more serious than eating too many cookies [...]
Anyone who has ever faced an addiction or who has supported a loved one through the difficult process, will be all too familiar with the fact that addiction is a selfish condition. We know that once addiction really takes hold, people find it incredibly difficult, if not impossible to abstain from the very behaviours they’re [...]
Sex addiction occurs when a person has persistent and escalating thoughts about sexual activities. This causes them to become obsessed and preoccupied with sex, to the point where it has a negative impact on their life. As with any addition, someone fighting sex addiction will struggle to control their feelings and actions. Eventually, the pursuit of [...]