Thirty to forty years ago, traumatized patients in need of Internal Family Systems therapy were typically diagnosed with what they called multiple personality disorder. In those days, the Self was referred to as the “host” because it was seen as more of an empty vessel for the traumatized Parts. The Self offers hospitality.
Today, research has given us so much more information about the Self, the Parts, and trauma in general. The Self is still the “host,” but it is also so much more. Recovering from trauma means understanding the Self and what it is really capable of. Doing so is the quickest path to healing.
The Self Possesses Perspective
Traumatized individuals continue to have access to the medial prefrontal cortex of the brain. That means they have the ability to focus on two things that are opposite of each other, can understand complex concepts, and can see a wider perspective.
The Self is able to see the Parts more like roommates rather than enemies; even though viewing them as enemies may be what comes naturally. When given the chance, the Self can step back from the Parts and notice how different they are from each other and from the Self.
The Self Can Think About the Past and the Present
Before therapy begins, trauma patients may struggle to differentiate between the Self and the Parts. There is a blending that takes place following a traumatic event that blurs the lines. However, the Self is capable of thinking about events that happened in the past as well as those that are happening in the here and now.
By the time the patient begins therapy, the Parts have typically been the ones in control most of the time. It is normal for the Self to feel depleted, exhausted, and even demoralized. The Self may identify closely with some Parts, but feel ashamed or afraid of others.
Even though the Parts tend to pull the Self into the past, the Self can exercise leverage and also be present in what is happening right now.
The Self Requires Education
Without learning about the Self and the Parts, and without some instructions on how to recognize and communicate with each, traumatized individuals often feel frustrated. The Self needs education, which helps by:
• Identifying the Parts as being more like young children that are attempting to communicate what they are afraid of.
• Making it possible to befriend the Parts instead of pushing them away.
• Fostering curiosity about the Parts, which is essential for the Self to understand them.
• Establishing the role of the Self in the healing process.
When many clients first begin IFS therapy, this approach to the Parts appears wrong. It seems senseless to strive to understand the Parts when they are causing the patient so many problems. But please be assured that the Parts will change once they are heard and validated. Research has shown that IFS therapy offers the best outcomes for trauma survivors.
Trauma Therapy Near You
If you have been contemplating trauma therapy, I encourage you to consider IFS therapy. This method has been life-changing for so many others in your position. Contact me today to make your appointment.
