It can be very painful for trauma victims to explore the memories that are related to the traumatic events they lived through. Unfortunately, trauma therapy has largely focused on reviewing these events in the past. But for the most part, the only thing that really ever accomplishes is retraumatizing the person all over again. That is something we want to avoid.
But that does not mean that we should completely avoid discussing their memories altogether. It only means that it should be done in a certain way that will be safe and result in a more positive outcome. It is possible, and I would like to share with you how it can be done so that it contributes to the healing process.
How to Avoid Retraumatization With Trauma Victims
A lot of people avoid trauma therapy because they cannot handle the thought of reliving those painful events all over again. They spend most of their time trying to avoid them, so bringing them up with a therapist seems frightening. This is completely understandable, and it has been shown that when trauma victims provide details or a scene-by-scene retelling of their story, it can and often does make them feel much worse.
There is nothing wrong with acknowledging the trauma, but it should be done in a way that avoids details. Generally referring to the trauma as the “bad thing that happened” helps avoid any triggering language. It also affirms to the client that a bad thing did happen to them, and they feel validated and supported in how they feel.
There is no need to activate a person’s traumatized nervous system all over again. This method provides a sense of calmness because therapist proves that they understand how difficult the situation was.
Are Trauma Victims Ever Encouraged to Share Their Story?
A lot of trauma victims are relieved to hear that they have the choice to tell their story or not. Some feel very strongly that they would like to share about their traumatic events, but they have never had anyone truly listen to them.
Trauma therapists should be willing to listen to the victim’s story and be there for them when it is over. Therapists can actually learn a lot from this process, such as where the victim places the blame for what they went through. But victims do need to be aware of what retelling their story can do, including triggering implicit memories and autonomic responses because of those painful memories.
Trauma Therapy Today: Help is Available for Victims
So many people have painful, traumatic events in their pasts, and they are afraid to work through them. The right trauma therapist can make a huge difference because they can lead the client through the healing process in a way that will be most helpful in the long-term. It is possible to acknowledge the past without triggering painful memories and retraumatizing the individual.
Are you ready to begin this process? I can help you. Please contact me today to make an appointmet.
